Monday 12 October 2015

I have some more to say than other days. 

I know many people mean well but their choice can make life miserable for someone else. 

I am mainly thinking of nursing homes, skilled nursing facilities and similar places. They can do a great service. The thing I think we need to do some soul searching and ask is the reason in sending them there for the other persons benefit or for mine. 

My grandmother lived out the last years of her life in a nursing home. My father wanted her to live with us. The doctor I'm told said something like, "I'm sure your intentions are good but at the nursing home she will be around people she knows and grew up with," Still a tough decision but a little more palatable. 

One lady told me her mom put her dad in a nursing home despite his objections. Granted I know very little of the situation. I very much understand his objections. 

Nursing homes and skilled nursing facilities are important and offer a very good and important service. I dare say they are overused. I dare say also that many families could do more of the care themselves. 

After I had been in three facilities people wanted to send me to another. I said I was not going to another place and if they wanted they could put me on the street. This caused a lot of concern with people. Finely my mother and her husband said that I could stay with them. 

I got things set up so I could get to my appointments and the rest is history. 

Granted I am not the typical potato in a wheelchair and I never hope to be. 

I do respectfully ask that you ask me about thing. I do get very tired by things and I am more than likely to get overly emotional with people in many ways. I am always grateful for help. What I ask is are doing something for you or me. That may be a difficult question to ask and answer. Are you "fixing" something for me or yourself. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Please don't let your good intentions become my personal hell.